Guy Got Your Tongue? How to handle him in any situation

should I text, does he like me, relationship talk, dating websiteWhen should I text him back? Does he like me or is he just looking for a hook-up? How do I bring up the “relationship talk?” If you are a single gal in today’s dating world, you have undoubtedly searched for answers to these questions as well as hundreds of others.  In the past you may have asked family and friends for their two cents on how to handle a guy, however these days you probably go straight to the number one source for all information – Google.  Yes, unbeknown to even your closest confidants, you have been asking Google for help with your relationship.  Why not? It’s so simple. You just type into the search bar, How do I find a boyfriend? and poof! Thirty billion answers await you! Wait. Thirty billion is a lot of answers.

You’ve posed a simple question, but you have not gotten the simple response you were looking for. Instead you find yourself sorting and skimming dozens of blogs, articles, and videos all to figure out how to respond to his ambiguous text message. You just want the answer to your specific question. Why is that so difficult?!? (Insert cry of frustration.)

I have very good news for you. You can now get the specific advice you need without having to read pages and pages of unrelated or irrelevant information. You can get your dating advice, a la carte! Similar to how itunes saved you from having to buy a whole album to get those 2-3 songs that you love,  I’ve compiled the most popular dating and relationship questions and put all the answers in one place. My new book, Was It Something I Said: The answer to all your dating dilemmas is different from all other relationship books because it uses Question & Answer format so that you can easily find the advice you are looking for. The Table of Contents is laid out just like an Index; every question listed with a page number.

Here is a sample of some of the questions in the Table of Contents:

When should I text him?

How do I get him to stop texting and start calling?

Can I turn my one-night stand into a relationship?

How do I tell him I’m not ready for sex? Will he lose interest if I don’t have sex with him?

Can I add him as a friend on Facebook?

How do I strike up a conversation with him?

Can I ask about his past relationships? How do I bring that up?

How do I get my hook-up to take me on a real date?

Why did he suddenly become distant? What do I do now?

How should I react when he cancels on me?

The best part about this Q&A book is that you will get specific advice on how to approach each scenario. In many instances, I give you the actual wording needed so you can have smooth conversations with your guy and achieve the best possible outcome for yourself and your relationship. So many women struggle to find the best way to say something, but now you can get all the tools you need to handle love’s challenges, big or small!

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Was It Something I Said? By Jess McCann

Order my new book from Amazon, Barnes & Noble or Books-A-Million now or read an excerpt here: WasItSomethingISaid_promo

And for those who asked How do I find a boyfriend, be sure to look out for the NEW REVISED and EXPANDED EDITION of You Lost Him at Hello: From Dating to I Do – Secret Strategies from one of America’s Top Dating Coaches, out in February 2013.

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4 Responses to Guy Got Your Tongue? How to handle him in any situation

  1. Lilian says:

    Great post, I will definitely buy this book! Can’t wait!

  2. Nice and wonderful post I will definitely read this book- thanks for advice

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  3. Serena says:

    Thanks Jess! I have both your books on my ipad (makes them easy to read anywhere). I’ve been dating a guy for just over 4 months who is giving me similar problems. He is a wonderful boyfriend, and very generous (I’m not used to that). But he’s not quite relationship-ready and so he’s always warning me about things b/c he doesn’t want to hurt me (but he loves me so he doesn’t want to break up with me). He used to live abroad and he’s having trouble adjusting to living in Canada. So he’s always warning me that he doesn’t know if he can live in Canada. I’m open to living abroad, it’s just that I can’t do that for a few years. He’s trying to sort out what he wants to do with his life. Some of his ideas could include me, but others are completely incompatible with my life. I’ve even wondered if I was getting the “silent no with excuses”. He asked me to be his girlfriend early in the relationship, he brought up love first, he hints at us having babies. Then he went on a holiday for several weeks (b/c he can’t handle winter) and when he came back he started warning me that if Russia invades Ukraine he’s going to go fight to protect his extended family over there (he used to be in the army). He’s admitted that he’s once again having trouble readjusting to life in Canada, and I’m being patient to see if he calms down in a few weeks and comes to his senses. I flat out asked him if he wanted to be in a relationship and that I had considered that maybe we should be friends until he sorts out his life. He proposed that we keep dating to see if we are compatible, but dial back the physical part of our relationship. I was impressed that he was willing to give up sex to keep dating me. He said he doesn’t need that and I am more than enough (and he has a very high sex drive). He’s very loving and attentive and made plans with me this weekend.

    I just don’t know what to do. It’s only been four months so I’m not expecting a comittment yet. But these constant warnings make it impossible to build anything with him (or just enjoy the moment). He has realised this and has promised to stop, but at some point I need to know that he’s comitted to me no matter how cold it gets or what is going on in world politics.

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