How to make a move on him: Advice for successfully approaching a guy first!

The follow is an excerpt of an article I wrote for

If you’ve read most dating books, you know a long-standing cardinal rule is to let the guy approach you first. However, with advances in modern technology have come advances in modern-day dating.

Most men would now prefer a woman to say hello, or at least display some sign of interest in chatting with them.

If you have your eye on a guy and want to strike up a conversation, here a few easy tips on the best way to do so!

1. Give him a sign.

Playing aloof and avoiding a man’s stare stopped working years ago, so if you are still holding on to the old “play hard to get” proverb when it comes to men approaching you, it’s no wonder you’re still single.

Men these days need a sign that you are interested.

In my book, “You Lost Him at Hello: From Dating to ‘I Do,’” I advise women to use a technique called the S.E.E. Factor.

It stands for Smile, Eye Contact, Energy.

You can use it anywhere and with any guy you fancy. Just smile, lock eyes for a full two to three seconds and exude a good, positive energy.

This will send him the message you are not only open to a conversation, but you are available for one (i.e. you aren’t taken by another man!)

Most guys fear rejection, so the S.E.E. Factor will give them the confidence they need to say hello.

2. Break the ice.  

While it may be hard for you to even imagine initiating a conversation with a guy, it’s actually quite easy and effective. I, myself, met my husband by talking to him first.

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One Response to How to make a move on him: Advice for successfully approaching a guy first!

  1. Lacey Smith says:

    These points are wonderful pieces of advice! I may have to check out your book “You Lost Him at Hello: From Dating to ‘I Do.’” One of my girlfriends gave me a book she just finished reading called “The Club Rules” by Johnny Mac and Kimberly D. You can check them and the book out on their website It’s great so far and makes me feel empowered to go out and be proactive when it comes to dating and relationships! Thanks for this post and for the tips!

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