When you see the guy you like what happens? Do you coolly say hello and engage him in witty conversation? Or do you start to hyperventilate, and quickly search for a rock to crawl under? For many females, talking to men is an art they cannot seem to master. Of course we want to show off how smart and fun we are in the hopes of getting asked out, but when you’re tripping over your every word it seems impossible to make a good impression. Is there a way to get better at talking to guys? Can you make sure that your feet stay planted firmly on the ground instead of getting one stuck inside your mouth? Absolutely! Here are some tips to remember that should help you better your conversation skills with the object of your affection.
1. Don’t Force The Conversation. Even though you desperately want him to notice you so that he can hurry up and fall in love, it’s best not to try and force a conversation with any guy. Yes, you have to position yourself to allow a convo to happen, but if he walks by you and just says hello, don’t follow him or make up some excuse to stop him. Not having a conversation is better than having a forced or awkward one. You may get a second chance if you don’t talk this time, but you will surely be avoided if he walks away from an uncomfortable chat with you. Wait until the timing is right.
2. Stay Focused On Him. Although it may seem obvious to keep your attention on the guy when you talk, many women spend more time thinking about themselves coming off well and making a good impression than anything else. If your mind is constantly obsessing about what you are saying and how you’re being perceived, you will absolutely seem nervous, disengaging, and insecure. Don’t worry about yourself when you are in the midst of conversation. Stay completely present and shut down your analytical mind. If you don’t, you might miss something he says or forget to laugh at the joke he tried to make. Don’t think about you. Think about him.
3. Ask The Right Questions. Dale Carnegie pointed out years ago that everyone’s favorite subject is themselves. So asking a guy about his work, life, interests, and passions are all topics he’s sure to enjoy discussing. Don’t worry about being funny or witty – remember, that would be focusing on yourself again. Men like women who are happy and engaged, which means all you really have to do is smile and listen! That’s it. If you appear to be genuinely interested in what he has to say, he will walk away from the conversation feeling great…and who does he have to thank for that? You!
Once you have broken the initial ice with someone you like, there will be a bevy of little challenges that arise. How to respond to a cryptic text? When to tell a guy how you feel about him? What to say if he makes you feel insecure? All these conversations may seem uncomfortable but can be had with great ease! In my new book, Was It Something I Said? The Answer to All Your Dating Dilemmas, I tackle over 100 of the most frequently ask questions regarding hooking up, texting back and moving forward towards lasting commitment. If you aren’t sure what to say or how to say it, the answers are right inside. Here is a sneak peek of a few of the pages.
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