4 Responses to How to Talk To Men: 3 Easy Tips For Chatting Up Guys

  1. Melissa says:

    Jess, I planned to buy your book asap. I love your blog!!!

    So, my question is this: how should a young girl handle older men who are pursuing them? Should they be gross out or flattered?

    When my older sister was a teenager, she had a good time with older men in their 20 – 40. She felt that it was harmless and fun. She is now married with children to a man 15 years her senior.

    When I was a teenager, I got burned by older men who used me. I am now forever creep out by older men. I date with my generation, 10 years top!!

    My teenage sisters are now being hit on by older men between 21 – 45. I told them to date boys their age or about 2 – 5 years older. My older sister feels that they should be flattered and go have a good times with them. Take advantage of their youth. Also, she thinks that being hung up on age or physically appearances is wrong since youth is fleeting.

    How should I advise my teenage sisters when it comes to older men?

    • Melissa says:


      My older sister (Kate) told my teenage sister (Kendal) that she was shallow because her guy friend (who was in his late 30s) was interested in her, and my teenage sister rejected him for being too old. He owns a house, and runs a business. Kate is in her 30s, and feels that her guy friend was a catch and that Kendal would never get the same chance again.

      Kate feels that teenage Kendal was very shallow since she pick her teenage boyfriend over him. She feels that there is more to life than looks. So how do I talked to my teenage sisters about personality over looks, yet also protect them from older men? Should I even try, or should I just listen to my older sister’s advice?

      Is she right? Women does have less option as they aged, yet when they are in their prime, should they take advantage of their youth when successful, established older men wants to court them?

      • jessmccann says:

        Hi there,

        Thank you for reading my blog. I really appreciate it and hope you will enjoy my books as well!

        As for your question, I would say that everyone is different and just because your older sister felt comfortable and confident enough to deal with older men, does not mean you or your younger sisters should follow in her footsteps. I think dating within your age range is a good idea, especially when you are a teenager or in your 20’s because men in their 30’s-40’s have a very different state of mind typically. Your sister may have been able to have casual sex or been able to “just have fun” (not quite sure what she means) but a lot of women cannot do that. I would advise your younger sisters to date people they are comfortable with, and at the same time just be gracious to whoever shows interest in them (but don’t necessarily go out with them.)

        Hope this helps!


  2. Melissa says:

    I tend to get nervous when it comes to talking to guys, but this helps me. Of course, every one loves to talked about themselves. Thanks!!

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