Alex, Bethesda, MD
Jess has been instrumental in the positive transformation of my life. In only 6 months...
Jess has been instrumental in the positive transformation of my life. In only 6 months, she has helped me to find and meet the love of my life (to whom I am now married). She has also helped steer me through the toughest career decision I've ever faced. She's incredibly empowering, insightful, and clearly an expert in both dating and life coaching. I'd recommend her (and have) to any person that is serious about leading a more full, satisfying, and purposeful life - she will be your compass towards true north. On a personal note, I just know that Jess epitomizes the characteristics of a truly caring and dedicated professional - she is wholeheartedly committed to her work and the people she serves. I owe my newly discovered life - a very fulfilling and happy one - in large part to Jess McCann.
Lola, Washington, DC
If I were writing a book about my life, it would be called...
If I were writing a book about my life, it would be called: ‘I was a Dating Dork.’ After many years of a happily married life, I became a widow. A year and a half after his passing, I read an article about Jess McCann’s book “You Lost Him at Hello.” I was intrigued by the title and understood the meaning instantly. I read it cover to cover as soon as I got it. I underlined it, took notes, reread it five more times, then called the author to ask if she would coach me on dating; after all, I was a dating dork in High School, College, and in my twenties; and I discovered I was still a dating dork.
Jess and I met in person for an hour about once every two weeks, and talked on the phone on the alternate week. Jess was not judgmental with me, but would listen to me and comment on each dating aspect I brought up. I learned simple things that were monumental for me, such as when to answer the phone and when to let it go to voicemail, how to keep a man excited about me and make myself a more interesting and enticing woman. Jess showed me how to dress a little sexier, not over the top, just more feminine and alluring. I wore a different “date” outfit each time I met her and asked for her comments.
Jess taught me that my goal in dating is to see how compatible I am with the man, to get to know him; to see how much fun we have together. If we don’t have fun, and if we're not totally compatible, he’s not my guy. This helped me get rid of the ‘husband hunting’ mentality; I became more of an observer of my social experience and learned to stay more “present” on my dates.
Jess encouraged me to join Match.com. I had a really good professional picture taken, and wrote a terrific profile (so I thought), which Jess promptly reduced to half the size. I was very active on Match. Jess would review the profiles of the men I was dating or wanted to date. My conversations with her helped me narrow down the qualities I wanted in the man, and the specific things that were important to me. But most importantly, Jess really helped me avoid the common pitfalls that happen early on in the dating process.
After ten months on Match.com (and fifty dates), I am now in an exclusive relationship with an absolutely wonderful man. We are so good together. The more I’m with him, the more I love him. Jess made me promise that no matter what, I would keep dating other men UNTIL he asked me to be in an ‘exclusive’ relationship. I agreed, and it turned out that this advice was critical. I was so busy dating other men, I wasn’t always available to him; and he became concerned he could lose me. Re: Jess’ principle ‘Fear of Loss is the Greatest Motivator’ – you can take that to the bank.
Jess is adorable, very sweet, loving, kind, non-judgmental, accomplished, and so wise at dating. Don’t be put off by her youthful good looks, she is a DATING WIZ. Her Service is affordable and for me, talking to her every week was absolutely essential in order to stay on course. She would say to me, “Stay close, keep me in the loop” She knew I could easily lose the man I wanted if I fell back into my old ways. I owe my joyful new relationship to everything I learned from Jess. Even my sisters and cousins can see I am no longer a dating dork.
Celene, Alexandria, VA
You’re getting advice from a dating coach?!? What a brilliant concept! Tell me more about what a dating coach does…
“You’re getting advice from a dating coach?!? What a brilliant concept! Tell me more about what a dating coach does…”
That’s the reaction that I have been getting from family and friends these last 4 months. At first I was secretive about the whole thing. But the more Jess changed my life, the more I had to boast about her accomplishments.
I first heard Jess’ name at a local Meet Up group. We were discussing known authorities on relationships nationwide. Jess was credited as being a leader in the field. I stored that information away until a month later, when I finally bought her book to see what all the hoopla was about. I read it in one sitting and was instantly hooked. Between connecting with her stories and seeing tangible results after implementing her advice, the book became (and continues to be) indispensable.
When I realized that Jess is also a dating coach, it was a very easy decision to contact her for more personalized advice. In the four subsequent months, she has taken me through an amazing adventure that started with me being lost in the dating world to now having an opportunity to converse with over 75 men on Match.com (and my profile has been active for only 5 days!). For all the online dating I have done in the last 10 years, I never reached anywhere near that number on my own.
Every single interaction with Jess has been extremely positive. She really makes you believe that you are her only client; she clearly cares about everyone she helps. The main thing that you can do is just trust Jess – she clearly knows what she is talking about. I, for one, am certainly indebted to her for all that she has done to get me to this point.
Amelia, Toronto, Canada
I sought out Jess for help with my online profile, and it was one of the smartest things...
I sought out Jess for help with my online profile, and it was one of the smartest things I've ever done. I’m getting noticed so much more now, and tons of men are commenting on what a great profile I have.
I am also filling my funnel now!! I'm dating a ton and I'm getting second dates! Also, this guy that I really like, I'm not so pressed over anymore because I have so many other options. This is definitely helping me to play it so much cooler with him.
Thank you, Jess!!!
Bianca, Los Angeles, CA
I have been coaching with Jess for two years. I can see a real difference...
I have been coaching with Jess for two years. I can see a real difference, not only my relationships with men, but with my relationship with myself! I used to be very attracted to the wrong kind of guy and I didn’t think there was anything I could do about it. You like what you like, right? That is what I thought too. But through the coaching process I learned how to see a man’s character more clearly and it totally redefined what I thought was attractive. This was a huge breakthrough for me and I am so happy that I am no longer drooling over guys that don’t deserve me. I have not found “the one” yet, but now I feel like I am the closer than I have ever been to finding him.
There is a big comfort in knowing Jess is there if I ever have a problem (which I do – I have many in fact!) When I am not quite sure how to handle a situation, Jess listens but also gives me very good advice on what my options are going forward. She never tells me what to do, but always makes suggestions - which I love. I can’t thank her enough for all she’s done and continues to do for me!
Lisa, Arlington, VA
After yet another relationship ending with “You’re a great person, I really like you, but something’s missing...
After yet another relationship ending with “You’re a great person, I really like you, I enjoy being with you, but something’s missing”, I decided to set out on a quest to find out what, in fact, that something was. A friend lent me the book “You Lost Him at Hello” and I read it in one sitting. It spoke volumes to me! As a sales person myself, I completely understood the concept, but after years… no, decades…of dating, I was set in my ways and seemed to make the same mistakes over and over again. As they say, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. That is just what I was doing and I knew I needed help.
I tracked down the author of the book and set my first appointment with Jess McCann. I’ve been to therapists before and I am not a fan. But Jess isn’t a therapist. I was skeptical, but open to it because I wanted to change. I can’t change all the jerks I’ve dated, but I sure could try to change myself.
During our first session, Jess told it to me straight… we weren’t going to dive into my past and figure out why I am the way I am, we’re going to work on how to change things now and in the future in order to get the results I wanted - a truly loving relationship with an amazing man.
Jess has an uncanny and innate ability to understand the effect of what I may have said or done to elicit the response I got from the other person. (She has helped not only in romantic relationships, but all my relationships… with colleagues, family, and friends.) She provides perspective that I never would have thought of on my own and constructively helps me with better ways to communicate my thoughts and feelings.
From that first day forward, my dating life has improved tremendously… like night and day! Jess has truly changed my life and I owe her a debt of gratitude. My only regret is that I didn’t seek her help sooner. While once I felt that my time had passed and I would never find true love, Jess has truly given me the hope (and tools to work with) that love isn’t only meant for others, but it’s meant for me too.
I am now at the beginning of a loving, committed, healthy relationship with a wonderful man and there is no question in my mind that I would not be here if not for Jess’s guidance. And she continues to shape me and help with issues as they pop up in the relationship. I look forward to each session and in between, she is there for me if needed.
I truly have found what was missing… I cannot thank Jess enough.
Melanie, New York, NY
With thanksgiving rolling around, been thinking again about how very grateful I feel to have found Jess McCann...
With thanksgiving rolling around, been thinking again about how very grateful I feel to have found Jess McCann: for her teachings, wisdom, generosity, deep listening and all the ways I've been able to change and grow through her loving guidance, and not less importantly, for the palpable feeling that she's holding my hand through all of this.
Before I found Jess through a random google search, I'd tried spiritual counseling, group therapy, on-line dating, Feng-shuing the love corner of my apartment, spiritual manifestation exercises, positive intentions, lots of prayer, dedicated meditation and countless self-help books. I'd interviewed almost every happy couple I knew about how they'd found love. The most common advice people gave me was that when I stopped looking for a relationship, that's when I would find one. I even tried that, but needless to say, it was hard advice to follow! These pursuits were valuable in many ways, but they didn't have any affect on my non-existent love-life. I was pretty convinced there was something very wrong with me. I wish I'd turned to Jess out of humility or some kind of desire to better myself, but it was actually pure desperation. In fact, when I showed up for our first meeting, I was about 90% convinced she'd tell me I was a lost case and offer me a partial refund on my coaching package.
Now, I no longer thing there is something "wrong with me," but I am also completely different than I was before. So much has changed in my dating life, but even more importantly, I feel like I am forever changed because I met Jess, especially in finally being able to come into a sort of equanimity towards people in my life, which is a happy, peaceful and truthful place to be.
I just wish more women who are suffering with what I went through could benefit from her support. I am happy to help get the word out in any way I can.
ps. I had 53 new message in my eharmony account today! From last Thursday!!
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